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real success has to do with the way you stand in it.
You can master your love life. This is what you want to do right
now. No more pain. No more hurt. You are in charge. Love is one of
the key energies in your life. It is one magic gift given to you.
Now, if you ad this dimension of power to it, you multiply its effect.
You want the tools to empower your love life.
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Power dynamics when you have a crush
If you got hurt because of falling in love, I know exactly how you
feel.
It is incredibly frustrating and painful to fall for someone who does
respond the way you want.
Why do you get hurt?
Because you love someone who does not love you back.
When you love, you give.
If the man you love gives you back nothing, you end up depleted
emotionally.
You give and get back nothing.
This creates a gap.
You start believing that for it to work, you need to give more and
more. The more you give, the less you get back in return.
Love is fulfilling when it is an exchange.
This is the moment it becomes a true feast in your life.
Love is precious!
When you give your love, you give your essence.
Nature created love exchanges as a two ways thing.
If you give and get nothing in return, you end up depleted and in
pain.
I f you don t want this to happen, you need to stay in the control
seat and master the way you give and to who you give.
If you are driven by passion alone without any form of control over
the way this passion is expressed, you end up going in circles and
get nowhere.
The goal is simple:
Make sure you stay master of your love.
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Love is like any other form of energy.
Learn to master how much you give and to who you give it.
When a man "takes over" your emotions, he literally overpowers
you.
He psychically invades your mind space and makes a mess of it.
This happens in the name of love but in fact it is a conflict of power.
You fall in love.
You open up.
You abandon yourself to love feelings.
In fact you loose control over your own mind.
Someone else takes control.
This someone else is a man who probably has no clue of what is
truly happening to you.
This is at 100% a psychic battle of forces and energies.
Something in you gets "polarized" and you simply start giving:
attention, love and desire.
When the man you love responds, it is magical.
It creates this responsive flow of beautiful emotions.
This works when love is two ways.
When he does not respond or feel the same about you, you end up
giving everything and getting nothing in return.
Your mind becomes a battle field of forces and energies.
Falling in love is addictive.
It makes you dependent.
It weakens your emotional base which is very destructive for you on
the long term.
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After a while, you realize that you lost your base and that you need
to put yourself back together.
If you experienced this emotional recovery in the past, you know
what I am talking about.
It can be dramatic.
The sad consequence of this is that you might shut down and
actually cut yourself from loving again in the future because you
believe that love will hurt you.
You simply are afraid of getting hurt again and every time you feel
these feelings and "butterflies", you recognize the warning signs,
you get afraid and don't open up to these feelings.
The long term consequence of this is that you might end missing
real opportunities.
You isolate yourself.
You cut yourself form these feelings and make yourself very
unhappy.
Many women do give up on relationships because they don't
m anage to stay above it when it happens.
Som ehow, they tried a few tim es and believe t hat t he challenge is
too big.
Love can be both a beautiful experience or a traumatic one
depending on how prepared you are for this experience.
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Why you can get hurt
There are two key elements involved in dating:
Love and power.
Everyone knows about the love side.
When you get hurt, it is because you miss the power side.
Power is what protects your mind space.
Power gives you limits, boundaries and effective strategies to face
any dating situation.
You want extra power to face any dating challenge.
The goal is simple: Stay master of your life.
You can get hurt by men!
Not because of love but because of the underlying power dynamics.
You can give too much and not get enough in return.
You can be "attacked" or challenged by other women or
the community you live in.
You can get rejected.
You can expect too much.
etc.
There are dozens of dating situation which can attack your self
worth.
The goal is to go into dating armed with the right tools.
You don't want to kill the magic!
Love stays the center.
However, you want to ad this extra quality of power and awareness
to make sure that your dating ground is secured.
This is what makes the difference.
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